It’s okay to grieve

It’s okay to grieve and it’s okay to get help. Talk to someone you trust… but please just keep walking. Remember that sadness does not mean lack of sabr (patience) or faith.

Prophet Yaqoub (PBUH) was a very patient man and yet his grief for losing Yousuf (PBUH) was unparalleled.

And he (Yaqub pbuh) said, “Oh, my sorrow over Yusuf,” and his eyes became white from grief because of the sorrow that he suppressed.” (Qur’an 12:84)

No judgment

Don’t judge someone because they sin differently from you.

Just because your sin is hidden while theirs isn’t doesn’t make you a better person. Just be thankful you haven’t been put in their situation. You don’t know what they could be going through. By judging you could actually be piling on more sins.

“When you were propagating it with your tongues, and uttering with your mouths that whereof you had no knowledge, you counted it a little thing, while with Allah it was very great.” (Quran 24: 15)

The Prophet (PBUH) said: “…He who covers a believers mistakes or shortcomings in this world, Allah will cover him in this world and the Hereafter…” #inshallah #Ameen

Change isn’t easy – don’t force it.

Don’t be the storm in someone’s life. Be the breeze that spreads the seeds of change.

Trying to change someone without their will is not only fruitless it is painful. We are all trying to do our best and most of us think we are doing things the right way. So forcing them to see your way as the right way is futile. Instead work on yourself and let the world around you get better.

Just like “there is no compulsion in religion” (Qur’an 2:256) let their be no compulsion in being. Let the proofs be clear as day and people will aspire to be like you.

I missed New Years Eve

I don’t know about most people but I always put so much pressure on myself for wanting to celebrate New Years or to be a part of a ritualistic tradition that I get serious FOMO (talk about not shopping on Blackfriday or at least trying to buy something I need, I usually end up with nothing). Most of you may not know but i’m an extroverted introvert I really don’t like to party (coffee with a friend is my kind of party) so i don’t even know why I’d feel the need to celebrate in some manner. Honestly maybe i just felt the need to do something exciting like everyone else was. My family back home always cut cake for fun (we do this a lot in India – don’t ask!) I went out once to NYC to see the ball drop and I missed my mom so much that I promised that I’d never leave her home again on NYE & then I got married and moved far away haha. My husband on the other hand didn’t do or care to do anything on new years! I was so shocked and disappointed that he’d fall asleep before the ball dropped in NYC and was always so chill about being different. Initially I would find fault with him but then accepted who he was and let it go. But for the first time in years I forgot all about New Year’s Eve and was merrily busy cleaning my kitchen. I was so happy that when I went to bed I realized I completely missed it. (I had known all day but by evening oops it was gone). Obviously there is nothing wrong in celebrating or being excited about celebrating but I just had to share my experience of how once my happiness was linked to something else but last night Alhamdullilah I was just happy! Happy being me! No pressure to party, no pressure to ring in the new years with some excitment. I just truly enjoyed cleaning my kitchen so much that unknowingly it was the most fun new years eve I’ve ever had. 🙂 I went to bed happy alhamdullilah and woke up happy ringing in just another beautiful day filled with goodness! All that said, happy new year folks! Stay true to yourself, be real, & be positively you, I know I will try to do so more often, Insha’Allah!