I don’t know about most people but I always put so much pressure on myself for wanting to celebrate New Years or to be a part of a ritualistic tradition that I get serious FOMO (talk about not shopping on Blackfriday or at least trying to buy something I need, I usually end up with nothing). Most of you may not know but i’m an extroverted introvert I really don’t like to party (coffee with a friend is my kind of party) so i don’t even know why I’d feel the need to celebrate in some manner. Honestly maybe i just felt the need to do something exciting like everyone else was. My family back home always cut cake for fun (we do this a lot in India – don’t ask!) I went out once to NYC to see the ball drop and I missed my mom so much that I promised that I’d never leave her home again on NYE & then I got married and moved far away haha. My husband on the other hand didn’t do or care to do anything on new years! I was so shocked and disappointed that he’d fall asleep before the ball dropped in NYC and was always so chill about being different. Initially I would find fault with him but then accepted who he was and let it go. But for the first time in years I forgot all about New Year’s Eve and was merrily busy cleaning my kitchen. I was so happy that when I went to bed I realized I completely missed it. (I had known all day but by evening oops it was gone). Obviously there is nothing wrong in celebrating or being excited about celebrating but I just had to share my experience of how once my happiness was linked to something else but last night Alhamdullilah I was just happy! Happy being me! No pressure to party, no pressure to ring in the new years with some excitment. I just truly enjoyed cleaning my kitchen so much that unknowingly it was the most fun new years eve I’ve ever had. 🙂 I went to bed happy alhamdullilah and woke up happy ringing in just another beautiful day filled with goodness! All that said, happy new year folks! Stay true to yourself, be real, & be positively you, I know I will try to do so more often, Insha’Allah!
Have we met before? he asked
She smiled and he knew
Heaven before earth was no lie.
Angels and Demons
The Angels were sent down to protect her
Little did she know
That battles were fought
To keep her from drifting
This year has taught us a lot. Different lessons from different individuals, but what it should have taught humanity is that it is lacking in compassion and empathy. We are more troubled everyday by the demise of innocent people and yet we cannot do anything but sympathize and move on. Let’s try to teach our children to build better communities and to be able to permeate in societies as bearers of righteous deeds who stand up against evil. We can all be super heroes who fight crime, may it be verbally, judicially, spiritually or empathetically. Let’s learn to respect another human being as much as we respect our own selves. And yes, let’s learn to respect ourselves. Do not think you are above someone because you are more knowledgeable or have a certain standing in society or have sinned less or differently than others. All of us will end to dust so learn to respect the time we have. Go beyond your family today and show the world that humanity is universal. Spend a dime in someone else’s name, give to those who are less fortunate, feed someone who may need a bite to survive, or just help your neighbor shovel the snow. Stand up for the weak and strengthen your self, help a kid with a low self-esteem, and educate the uneducated. There are many within our own community who cannot read, help spread the wealth of knowledge. It is the MOST important asset you can give to someone. Learn to be aware of the people around you don’t be blinded by your love for someone if someone needs help… accept it, and get them the help they need. Do not wait for them to commit a crime to understand the seriousness of their mental and emotional health. Be there for your children, for your family, for your fellow human being and also for your fellow living beings. You are lucky enough to be guarded, blessed, and living, do something to make it worthwhile. May God bless you and hope you have a safe, prosperous and compassionate year ahead, insha’Allah.